Let me begin by saying I am not here to judge, only to open the door for more avenues to explore. The idea with role playing is to transform yourself and your lover into new personas, leaving behind your everyday life and roles. It’s crucial to go into the situation with the mindset that this activity is not something your partner would normally do. Therefore, you cannot hold the experimentation against him or her. If you mutually agree to try role playing, then you are giving each other permission to explore activities outside your regular routine. In other words, if you choose to engage in the practice, you cannot think less of the person later. As you will see with the following examples, one person generally plays the dominant role, and the other takes the passive position.
The “master/slave” scenario can work on several levels. Trust is imperative for this situation because the slave must do whatever the master tells him or her. The slave may be aroused by being submissive, while the master may be turned on by being in control. This scenario can be as simple as the master ordering the slave to fetch something or complete a certain act. Or, you can make it as devilish as you want as well.
The “doctor or nurse/patient” scenario remains one of the most popular role-playing games. You can begin by having the patient walk in the room. The doctor or nurse can then say that the patient needs a full examination, beginning with taking off his or her clothes. We are visual creatures, so disrobing can be quite arousing. Then the doctor or nurse can start the examination…I think you can take it from there.
The basic premise and allure of this next role-playing situation, “strangers meeting,” is the idea of having sex with a stranger. The two people meet in a designated place like a bar or restaurant and act as though they have never met. They flirt and behave as if everything were new. And then the night progresses…
Other common role playing situations include the teacher and student, lady of the manor with chauffeur or servant, aerobics teacher or yoga instructor and student (imagine the possibilities!), or any others you can imagine.
Before you go shopping for a stethoscope or chauffeur’s hat, though, consider the props you may already possess at home. In our crazy, hectic society, it seems we are all pressed for time. So if you lack the time, funds, or courageousness to go shopping for props, just look in your closet. Ladies: wear one of your partner’s shirts. Men find this sexy anyway, but give it a different spin. For men who like women to take charge, a nearly naked boss could send his head spinning. Or think about the sporting gear you have at home. Add a sports jersey here or an old cheerleading outfit there, and you have another fantasy at your fingertips. You are only limited by your imagination.
I’m almost afraid to ask for stories about role playing…As one subscriber said, “Hell, some of the best costumes are none at all.” Well said. That just about wraps up my take on role playing. As always, I remain…