Christmas and New Year’s Eve provide the perfect backdrop for romantic activity; even if you’re suddenly single. Can you think of another time where parties are more prevalent? It’s also the time of year when people find themselves feeling more emotionally generous. Combine these two factors and you have a perfect opportunity to get to know somebody better (preferably not the guy at your office party who spends the evening making Xerox copies of his assets). Now, the pessimist is going to complain about going to these holiday parties alone while the optimist will seize the opportunity to share eggnog with a new friend. Did you know that the average adult receives five to six holiday party invitations? For those of you who complain about not having any way to meet new people; take a breath and consider the obvious bounty of socializing potential. If you won’t make the effort, don’t complain about not meeting anyone fabulous.

Holiday parties also pack more flirtation otential than other parties. People are generally more relaxed as the year winds down. Others review the year and decide to make bold new changes before the clock runs out. Combine these two factors with eggnog, mistletoe, twinkling lights and holiday warmth to spawn a new romance.

Don’t think I forgot about my married friends. Married couples have a few built-in opportunities. Most of you equate the holidays with holiday stress, so you need to look beyond the running around. While you’re decorating the tree, try hanging lights on your headboard or bedroom windows. Next to candlelight, there’s nothing more romantic than soft holiday lights. Use the season to your advantage!

Got kids? No problem! You have a small window of opportunity here to persuade your children to be extra well-behaved. It sounds a little like this: “You don’t want Santa to put you on the bad list do you? Well, make him proud of you and…”: (choose the appropriate phrase)

Take your bath
Clean up your room
Feed the cat
Dry the dishes
Stop fighting
Go to bed when we ask you the first time
Bring Mommy her martini…

Okay, you get the idea, but if you think about it; you can pack a years worth of good behavior into one month! After your cherubs go to bed it’s time to wrap presents with your
spouse. Christmas lights, silk ribbon, soft music, eggnog, and tape should not be wasted! Wrap the presents; then your spouse. If you’re lucky enough to have a fireplace and
falling snow? I refuse to draw you a picture! Take the season and make the most of it. Carmen plans to see if she can solve the Grinch’s “three-sizes-too-small” problem. Jingle all the way!

Work opposite shifts? No problem. Long-distance relationship?  You can work around it – think of all the frequent-flier miles!  Kids’ schedules in the way? You quickly memorize the names  and phone numbers of babysitters within a 15-mile radius. In  short, you become Super Woman or Super Man to see your equally-as-horny lover. I’ve read over and over that in the beginning,  NOTHING could stop these couples from engaging in a quickie,  groping under the tables at restaurants, and even making out  during MONDAY NIGHT FOOTBALL (gasp! the horror!).

Many of the said couples continue the relationships, date for years, and perhaps move in together and/or marry. And, according to some of you, that’s where it all begins to go downhill. After pouring over dozens and dozens of your emails, the phenomenon boils down to this: whereas before you had to get sex when you could, cancelling appointments, finding babysitters, doing WHATEVER it took, now that you live  together, the urgency and immediacy have immensely decreased. Before cohabitation, you never really knew when your next sexual thrill would come (no pun intended). Sure you could guess that it would be after your weekly Saturday night date, but you never REALLY knew; hence, the urgency to get it  when and where you could.

But all that has changed now, right? Where’s the urgency if you wake up and go to bed with your partner EVERY SINGLE  DAY? All of a sudden it’s easier to flop into bed without making love on a Tuesday night if you know you can just get  some tomorrow. You now know when you will see each other  next, and, as crazy as this sounds, Monday Night Football  becomes a priority again. I’ve had several people tell me  “He/she couldn’t keep he/her hands off me before we moved in,  but now we only have sex once every…” you fill in the blank.

Why, why, why, people? Does this HAVE to be a natural pro- gression? I’m sincerely asking. I want, no, I NEED to know why we’re letting this happen. I want to hear from couples who have been able to maintain urgency with their lovemaking or those who found themselves taking each other for granted but were able to get back on track. Or perhaps you’re okay with the change. WE want to know. If you HAVE noticed a  change, are you okay with it, or would you prefer sex on a more regular basis? Send your comments in IMMEDIATELY so we can help readers at the end of the week. For consideration for Friday’s reader comments, put “downhill from here” or something similar in your email’s subject header.

I can’t help but reflect on a reader comment from a couple months ago. Someone wrote in about “hotel urgency.” One  reader’s wife no longer preferred to have sex as often… except while on vacation. In a hotel setting, the story was completely different, as there was a time table to their sexual adventures, a sense of urgency if you will. Is this the  same phenomenon as today’s topic? And is it all tied to taking one another for granted? Write in, my dearheart.

That initial energy you feel in the beginning of a relationship is more than just nerves. Its the energy that a couple feeds each other when their love is pristine and new. It comes without blame, without criticism, and without baggage. Your only focus centers on how to make your love blissfully happy and most of you energy is directed towards keeping this “high.” You carry their happiness in your hip pocket and feel no qualms about how to enhance the status quo. You’re giddy, and the glow you radiate is like a magnet for other people. Without trying, people of the opposite sex seem unexplainably drawn to your energy and the world is your oyster. Get the picture?

So why does something this magnificent suddenly come to a halt? Do the little love notes stop? Are there no flowers or efforts to make your favorite meal anymore? Are the little moments that don’t cost anything disappearing into the sunset? If you want to stop this disintegration; keep reading.

There is a certain energy that men and women both require in order to nurture their passion. Both thrive on intimacy, but men and women have different ways of expressing this closeness. If you need a barometer to determine when this sexual energy is not being fed, consider this.

Your sex life has never been better and both of you crave being together. As the evening finally arrives at that moment of physical possibility you succumb to the dance. He/she starts by pushing all of your buttons and foreplay has officially started. It seems to be right on track when you notice that he/she stops short. Rather than continuing with the intense foreplay, your partner has taken a decided break. There is a lackluster amount of reciprocity and at first you think you’re imagining it.

You decide to slow your pace to see if your partner will meet your efforts, but no. You’re not crazy he/she has just taken the role of taker rather than giver and your mind reels. Have they suddenly found you less attractive? Are they suddenly disinterested in teasing your sweet spots? You think you’re imagining things, but there is a palpable difference in your lovemaking. Perhaps you get through it a few times (dazed and confused) but now you know its happening. Your partner is giving you a kick-start, but thinking that the rest of the activity lies in your court.

This could effectively be the beginning of the end. Intimacy thrives on knowing that your partner is always thinking of way to validate or treasure you. If you notice that things have cooled-even for a while, there is damage. You anticipate this and start to withdraw, he/she in turn does the same thing. Not because they want, but out of self-preservation. You’re thinking that if they no longer feel that moved by you, why should you be in this alone? So you wane. This pattern becomes the silent observation and pretty soon you’re both frustrated and miserable.

Don’t let this happen. It’s not tending to the sex; its tending to the energy that sustains your sex that matters. As soon as your partner starts to feel marginalized you’ve got a problem. Your job is to commit to the energy that made your relationship hum so you can continue to deepen you intimacy. These principles repeat throughout your relationship, and are the basis of tantric love. I will be diving into this subject in greater detail for articles to come, so keep reading and we’ll explore this practice in greater detail. Until we strap in for this; I leave you with one small idea. Take a moment to look your lover in the eyes and reclaim the fire that has become a slow burn.

The “master/slave” scenario can work on several levels. Trust  is imperative for this situation because the slave must do  whatever the master tells him or her. The slave may be aroused  by being submissive, while the master may be turned on by being in control. This scenario can be as simple as the master  ordering the slave to fetch something or complete a certain  act. Or, you can make it as devilish as you want as well.

The “doctor or nurse/patient” scenario remains one of the most  popular role-playing games. You can begin by having the patient walk in the room. The doctor or nurse can then say that the patient needs a full examination, beginning with taking off his or her clothes. We are visual creatures, so disrobing can be quite arousing. Then the doctor or nurse can start the examination…I think you can take it from there.

The basic premise and allure of this next role-playing situation, “strangers meeting,” is the idea of having sex with a  stranger. The two people meet in a designated place like a  bar or restaurant and act as though they have never met. They  flirt and behave as if everything were new. And then the  night progresses…

Other common role playing situations include the teacher and  student, lady of the manor with chauffeur or servant, aerobics teacher or yoga instructor and student (imagine the  possibilities!), or any others you can imagine.

Before you go shopping for a stethoscope or chauffeur’s hat,  though, consider the props you may already possess at home.  In our crazy, hectic society, it seems we are all pressed  for time. So if you lack the time, funds, or courageousness  to go shopping for props, just look in your closet. Ladies:  wear one of your partner’s shirts. Men find this sexy anyway,  but give it a different spin. For men who like women to take  charge, a nearly naked boss could send his head spinning. Or  think about the sporting gear you have at home. Add a sports  jersey here or an old cheerleading outfit there, and you have  another fantasy at your fingertips. You are only limited by  your imagination.

I’m almost afraid to ask for stories about role playing…As  one subscriber said, “Hell, some of the best costumes are none  at all.” Well said. That just about wraps up my take on role  playing. As always, I remain…

Whether it is a five year old child or a seventy year old septuagenarian, love sees no boundary. So much so that it actually doesn’t matter to an extent whether you are single or married, rich or poor, dark or fair and even male or female. Finding someone special doesnt need any protocol or a specific age. Neither does one see how, where and why one should fall in love and of course with whom. As they say love happens and it happens for the best and to the best.

Every emotion is tied to love. Though in todays fast paced wheeling lifestyle falling in and of course out of love is quite fast. It is actually as fast as putting the fork in and out of the mouth while eating. But still people don’t stop falling in love. The craving to find some in life is as active a desire as other essentials in life. When and how, well no one knows. But surely there is someone waiting for you out there.

Online match-making sites along with find your lover web campaigns have been a great boon for people wanting to find someone special in life. It has also been seen that many times the love life compatibility of couples through such online matrimonial websites are quite higher than expected. Well, that tells us that there is no set place to fall in love or find love. At the same time you needn’t be a princess or a prince charming to find true love. Love is all around you and its free ! An oversized teddy bear, a big box of chocolate and thousand roses can easily make you stroll in the seventh heaven, but what matters more is the person at large and his unconditional love for you.

Caste, Creed, religion, age and even sex, yes you heard me right even sex, in modern times are some of the most frivolous words to be used when someone rowns himself in love. Interestingly though, for many couple in love everything else in life take a back seat. Talk to them about job, education , family and all you end up getting is a frosty nose stare. And why not, is there anything more beautiful and satisfying than falling in love? Well, for the sake of all die hard lovers the answer has to be a big NO.

You can carve the name of your beloved on your body which will provide lovely feelings to her. Romantic and love tattoos never give bad impression on others because these are very beautiful and provide pretty look. If you want to make your beloved happy then you should surely get this tattoo design so that you would be able to get closer to her. When you go closer to that person to whom you love a lot, you obtain unique feelings which have no match. There is another style; you can opt for impressing your beloved.

You can choose a love picture which depicts well about your feelings. Firstly, you have to decide which type of love pictures you want to choose because there are myriad of tattoo love designs. You can select sensual picture in which a couple is kissing each other or you can go for carving a heart. You should choose the design according to the style and personality of your beloved. If according to you, your beloved will love couple tattoo design then you should immediately get any attractive one. But if your beloved is not wild and loves sophisticated pictures then you should check out the pictures of heart shape.

Make sure that passionate and love tattoo you are choosing is not so common. Girls dont want to get those purposing ideas which are common and are being adopted by several of boys. They want different from boys which few people like to go for. Always select good tattoo parlor for this purpose. You should make sure that tattoo design which you have been choose for your beloved, is being carved by a superb professional so that you can obtain an ideal and perfect outcome. If you will go to that parlor which doesnt give professional work then you cannot impress your beloved.

Love should be expressed in unique way because girls like the uniqueness. If you think that your beloved is a different kind of personality and doesn’t impress by the things immediately then you should make lots of research work in order to find an attractive tattoo love. Its not difficult to find out the unique design because you can get numbers of galleries on net. You can also mix your beloved name with one picture but make sure that you are combining the outclass picture with your beloveds name.

Birthdays can be a difficult time for those of us who live in mortal fear of the aging process. But what many don’t realize is that birthdays take just as great a toll on the birthday girl’s or boy’s love interest. Most people in new relationships feel as if they’re on trial and awaiting judgment when giving a gift.
Picking the perfect present would be a whole lot easier if you consider the most important determining factor which is relationship duration. The amount of time the two of you have spent together should have a direct impact on the two variables of creativity and cost.
After just three or four dates, the general rule is to acknowledge the occasion without going overboard. Spending hundreds of dollars on someone you’re just getting to know is definitely no solution. After you’ve shared a few dates, a humble token of you affection will suffice to say that you cared enough to give something. I would suggest flowers at work or some music CDs that she’s been wanting.

Few experiences can rival the disappointment of finding that ideal someone only to discover that their personality or relationship situation is flawed beyond repair. It’s worse than spending hours over the hot stove and then burning that perfect dinner. It is a travesty, but since it happens all the time, you must deal with it.
Denial is a common reaction. Many people dismiss warning signs and continue to indulge their fantasies of a great future in couplehood.
You need to take serious consideration of your first instinct. Why was your meeting hid in secrecy? If he is involved with someone else, no matter what you’re attraction is, it will not workout without disappointment and heartbreak. Even if he did leave his present girlfriend for you, how do you know he won’t cheat on you and leave you for the next? Even while you’re together, you’ll always wonder if he is yours and yours only.
You need to do your homework. Ask him to do things on the spur of the moment. Ask him if you can call him in the middle of the night if you’re thinking about him. If you get the runaround on these answers, then you need to move on to someone who is more deserving of your desire.

Confidence is a learned skill, just like riding a bicycle. You can easily make confidence a habit with enough practiced. People who seem to have their act together didn’t get there overnight. It definitely takes a certain amount of determination and risk-taking to get yourself to the point where you can meet a guy (or girl) without going all red. But once you’re successful, and yes, you will be successful, you’ll begin to discover that gaining confidence is not as hard at it looks. Here are some confidence boosters that will get you mingling in no time.
Stand up straight. Sometimes appearing confident is as simple as straightening your spine. A slumped posture creates low self-esteem or the appearance of one. Smile! The power of the smile should never be underestimated. Smiling is a safe way to boost your confidence and announce that your interested and interesting. Talk with determination. If you’re really looking to boot your confidence, you need to pay special attention to your voice. A quite voice reveals a high intimidation factor or insecurity. A nasal voice sounds like your whining or complaining. You should always speak up, speak slowly and don’t forget to breathe. Make eye contact. Ultimately, the best way to convey confidence is to hold long lingering look for more that three seconds.

Your absolutely right about guys liking provocative clothing, but this is before they become your boyfriend. This is a fine example of the male ego. When he first met you he loved your sexy self, but because of his need to have you all to himself, he is threatened when other men look at you. My suggestion would be to reassure him that you’re only interested in him and he shouldn’t worry. If he still has a problem with it, you can either tone down your dress or let him know that you’re not going to change only for the sake of accommodating his insecurities.